Open Wide to Pleasure
Lady Queens, it’s time to talk about having a glorious and healthy relationship with your body, your Pussy, and pleasure. And oh yes, you’ll be hearing more gems from our Pussipedia.
Rather than thinking about your Pussy in relation to your partner, the first and most important relationship with your Poonani should be the one you have with her.
Often you see it as your partner’s responsibility to ‘allow’ you an orgasm, limiting the association of sexual gratification to time spent intimately with others. And while an orgasm from your partner is a delight, remember you always have the option to open to pleasure all on your own.
As a woman, you can have a wobbly or wonderful relationship with your Lady Bits. Many women’s relationships with their Cooters might be somewhere in between. Sometimes, your relationship might be joyous, and on the other side, you may still be living with insecurities or anxiety as a result of trauma. Whatever the case, making friends with your Downstairs Kitty Cat and knowing how she works is vital for a truly healthy and balanced life.
Your relationship with your Cho-Cha may be different than you’d like, but you have everything you need, in you and in Her, to transform that relationship into whatever you want. The choice is yours.
As a woman, you might have previously focused on comparing yourself to other women, something that happens tragically often in our society. The most important thing to focus on instead is what brings you pleasure, in your Gilded Lily and your body, rather than in your head.
Society has you focused on how you look and ruling from your mind, and it has encouraged a detachment from your Pussy. Your mind is, of course, marvellous, but your Pussy should be in charge. She knows what you truly desire, and only she can light a fire in you that burns bright and allows you to say YES completely to life.
Many avenues — physical looks, personal hygiene, traumatic events like rape, sexual abuse, or unwanted sexual attention — can lead to you feeling small and less-than. This can result in you closing yourself off to pleasure, or confusing pleasure with invasion or aggression — leading to an inability to orgasm. The author of the book Pussy, Mama Gena, lead an event in which she asks the audience members to stand up if they’d had any uncomfortable or inappropriate sexual experiences, and 99% of the room stood up. This means that as women, you and me, we are in this together.
So how do you begin to decompress trauma and develop a healthy relationship with your C-U-Next-Tuesdays and with pleasure? This starts when you having a healthy relationship with your whole body.
Recognising how your body serves you each day is a great start to appreciating her and giving her the time she deserves. Create healthy rituals for your body, drink enough water, cleanse her, exercise, feed her well, explore her and take time to self-pleasure. Speak to your body the same as you would to your best friend, because she is your best friend.
You only have one body, and she is your temple.
Creating these rituals will help you create a mindset of support and love for this amazing vehicle you live in each day, rather than taking her for granted. Love her, adore her, honour and strengthen her.
From this point, you can begin looking at your Poon-tang for what she is: more than just a tool for childbirth or sexual interaction, but your best friend, your GPS in love, life, and business. This allows you to build a personal relationship with her, understand her and recognise any insecurity, anxiety, or trauma she’s experienced. You can choose to release these and open her to pleasure.
Take a moment now to truly listen to your Pussy. Find a quiet moment at home when you can be present and quiet with her. Place your hands on her and allow your focus and energy to go to that area, clothing optional. Tune in to how her energy feels, and how he responds to your attention. You may feel throbbing, expansion of energy, or tingles — this is all normal. If you feel nothing at all in this moment, consider that you may still be in your head and guide your attention to your Pussy. Allow the energy to expand and contract, naturally creating a connection. When you’re ready, say loving words to her and feel/sense if she responds. You may be surprised.
Once you have begun feeling self-love for your Pussy, you can begin relaxing in Pleasure — we’ll get into that later!!
For now, stay connected to your Pussy, Lady Queen! C-U-Next-Time!
