Flowing With Your Flow

Lady Queens, if you’ve been with us for a while, we hope you know the importance of your cycles by now. When you plan around your cycle and follow your own natural rhythms, you’re able to stay consistent, which helps place your sparkling crown on your gorgeous head with effortless joy.

Just to recap, these are the best practices for each part of your Queenly cycle.

· Spring — organisation, energy rising

· Summer — high energy, action, outgoing

· Autumn — detail-oriented tasks, finishing off tasks

· Winter — rest, introspection, space

In spring and summer, you’re basically Superwoman (cape optional). You’re full of energy, in the mood to socialize, and ready to do all of the things. As you move into autumn, you start feeling more inward, detail-oriented and nitpicky. Use this energy for dotting each “i” and crossing every “t.” Next comes winter: hibernation time. This is when you want to curl up under a comfy blankie and rest. Hopefully, you’ve let your nearest and dearest know that winter has come, and you need alone time. But sometimes, life happens — so, what do you do if a colleague or your kid’s teacher books something into your calendar when all you want to do is eat chocolate and read books on the couch?

What do you do to avoid feeling thrown off-balance? You might think, “Well, ok, I have to do this thing.” It feels like an obligation — when in fact, perhaps it’s just in your best long-term interests to do the thing.

Before we go any further, let’s look at the word “obligation.” The Oxford English Dictionary defines it as “the action of binding oneself by oath, promise, or contract to do or forbear something; an agreement whereby one person is bound to another, or two or more persons are mutually bound; also, that to which one binds oneself, a formal promise.”

Read that again. We’ll wait.

That’s some serious sh*t. When it comes to such a strong word — dealing with oaths, promises and contracts — use it sparingly. A mother is obligated to look after her children, a fur-mama is obligated to look after her fur-babies, but that’s about it. When it comes to friends, work, or any other situation you try to assign the word to, there actually is no obligation, unless you create it. Remember, Lady Queen: your words have power. Use them well. In those rare instances where you do have obligations, you can always ask a loved one for support. You always have a choice.

Back to your best long-term interstes. By “best long-term interests,” we mean if it helps you keep a job, honors or deepens a friendship, helps your projects along, and so on. In these instances, if you choose to do the thing, you can put space around it, so you’re supported, both before and after. You can ask your partner to look after the kids or ask a friend to walk the dog while you get a massage or take some quiet time to read a book, or just lounge on the couch eating chocolate and watching Netflix. (We recommend Sex Education. So good.) Do whatever will bring you back to center, make you feel nourished and allow you to drop back into a place of stillness and peace.

Teany: A great example is a time where I had to take a class for work and sadly, I’d missed the reminder emails sent prior to this. The only time I had available was late at night the day it was due, and I was just about to start my cycle which, is a time for rest rather than a time to focus on something technical that required attention, deep thought, and lots of reading. But I supported myself by practicing pacing, took breaks, and even managed to spend some time with my son right before he went to bed. As a single mom, giving time to do things for myself and my son is incredibly nourishing. Those moments and the relaxed timing made all the difference at a time when my body, mind and energy wanted to be still instead of focusing on a task. Happy to say it was completed and I even received a high score on the test! It’s amazing what pacing and filling yourself with nourishing moments can do to help you through things.

Keeping all of this in your mind, think about planning around your cycle to bring effortless joy into your business. Lady Queen, working in tune with your needs makes everything so much easier and far more delicious. Map out when you’ll be in spring, summer, autumn/fall, and winter as you use your female superpowers to create your 12-week Queendom Map.When you plan the best activities for the most optimal times of your cycle, you allow your cycle to work for you, rather than against you. Moving in flow with your cycle (flowing with your flow, so to speak) is the secret juice that brings effortless joy into your life and helps you Queen it in your business.

To make sure you’re staying true to your desires and flowing with your cycle as you follow your Queendom Map, ask yourself the following questions.

• Is it pleasurable? Is it honouring? Is there a way you can make it so?
• Is it paced to your rhythm, cycle and schedule?
• Does it fuel your desires from your heart? Do you feel compassion and gratitude?
• Does it match your desire for your Queendom Map? What do you want to let die today — by doing it or letting go?

Before we go, here are some handy tips for you, Lady Queen, to keep you feeling juicy.

• Consciously limit your time with those who drain you.
• Post up or keep your Map in a visible place as a daily reminder for you.
• Look at your Map before you go to sleep and when you wake up, in a ritualistic way, rather than an obsessive way.
• Finally, but perhaps most importantly, leave space in your day for collaboration and magic from the Cosmos.

Follow your Queendom Map and flow with effortless joy! Can we get a “Hell yeah!” Lady Queens?

On that note, stay connected, juicy, and playful, and we’ll see you next time.